Guest Post by John Hughes
To most people vision refers to the sensation of seeing what is in front of you. But what if you don't like what is in the near future? What if something is getting you down, frustrated or stifled? Would you change it? Of course you would! If it were a lamp, a car, an item from a past relationship or the color of a wall you would change it. But when it comes to bigger life choices we hesitate. We deeply consider, weigh pro's & con's, consider the other person who is involved or get nervous about the uncertain future. Why?
Think about how you envision your future. Is it with a loving and close partner? Or are they independent? Does the job you do give you meaning? Is it in a field you enjoy? Does it draw a big paycheck? Are you a stay at home spouse with a child? Whatever your vision for your future is, you can make it happen. I believe two quotes will help: "We are who we force ourselves to become" -Shawn Ray and "I look at you and I see two men: the man you are, and the man you ought to be. Someday those two will meet. Should make for a hell of a football player." -Gene Hackman in The Replacements.
Have a vision for how you want to be. Have a vision for how your future will look. Once you have that in your mind (and this will be something you think about almost all day & everyday), whatever it is, take steps everyday to move toward how you want your life. You will have obstacles in your way and there could be plenty of doors slammed in your face, but those were doors that were meant to be closed so you get closer to your destiny.
Maybe an example will help? I knew from the age of 18 that I wanted to be the best husband I could be for my future wife. Okay, so it's cheesy. But honestly I have seen marriages fall apart for any number of reasons and I wanted to make sure I was the best partner I could be. So, I decided to work on any skill I could learn prior to marriage which would help me be a better partner. Cooking, cleaning, finances, communication, or any opportunity that presented itself as a skill for the future, I took advantage of.
How can YOU apply this idea to your life? (because let's face it, without application there is not much else that changes)
- Figure out your main goal/area you want to work on. Is it yourself, an ideal job, a future ideal vision for you/your family or another area?
- Plan out in detail what steps need to be taken to achieve it. Is it a course for a future job? Is it stashing away $10/week for your goal? Is it learning communication skills?
- Sacrifice..... Let's face it, something has to give. If there is a person in your life that doesn't fit, get them out. If you need to learn communication skills, welcome criticism and PRACTICE.
- Be okay with rejection. Guess what? That was not your life path so don't invest too much emotional energy into feeling bad, but do analyze why it didn't work.
- Patience and persistence. "It took me 17 years and 114 days to become an overnight success" - Lionel Messi.